Pregnancy Update & Questions
Posted in Whatever Wednesday and tagged with Baby, Family, Pregnancy, Question, Sick on 12/02/2009 05:16 pm by lori
Sorry for being the worst blogger, again. We were on Thanksgiving vacation from Wednesday-Saturday (pictures to come later). And since we’ve been back home, I’ve had to catch up on laundry, do regular household things, and finish up my Christmas shopping. I still have a few Christmas sewing/making jobs left, but at least I don’t have to shop!
About the pregnancy: I’m feeling Baby move a lot more for the past week or so. In fact, Baby’s moving now. Last week, I started feeling better with the nausea/vomiting. Since I felt good for more than 3 days, I thought, ‘I’m better finally.’ And then, Monday happened. UGH. Definitely not over the all day sickness. The past three days have not been fun. Please, please God make me better! Okay, sorry about the whining . . .
Picture of Baby #2 at 13 weeks
I am now 20 weeks along, and knowing how my previous pregnancy went, it probably means I’m more than half way done! Yea!
So, next Tuesday is the big Sonogram. The one where we could find out the gender. We’re still debating about whether or not to find out. What do you think- objectively?
My cousin Katie got me thinking that it’d be fun to wait until delivery day to find out. If we already had babies of each gender, I would so wait until delivery day. But, I’m not sure since we wouldn’t have boy stuff if Baby is a boy. And then, I thought since this is probably going to be our last baby, it might be fun to be surprised.
Either way, I think surprises are fun, so we’re thinking we might not let anyone know regardless of whether or not we find out. Is this rude?
How did you decide whether or not to find out Baby’s gender? Specifically, to those of you who waited, are you glad you did?
Another question: We took Abigail to Baby #2’s first sonogram, but we’re not sure if we should take her to this one. We want it to be special, and it was hard the first time, because we were constantly having to answer Abigail’s questions/comments. Also, we were wanting Jonathan to video record Baby’s movement on the monitor. So, did you take your older kid(s) to your new baby’s sonograms?
Abigail at 20 weeks
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December 2nd, 2009 at 5:31 pm
We wanted to find out with Carter but he was uncooperative. We have decided that next time we will not find out because it was kinda nice to find out right at the end and be suprised. Also, it is totally not rude to find out but not share. It is your choice.
December 2nd, 2009 at 5:55 pm
NAK
We found out with Haley and loved it. When I got pg with #2 I kept the pregnancy a secret until about 20 weeks and really enjoyed it being a secret. We attempted to find out baby’s gender but was met with closed legs. I actually enjoyed waiting and thought the surprise of “it’s a girl” was fun, especiallly as I was lying naked in my hallway surrounded by emergency personnel… my daughter was a TRUE surprise!
If we had found out we were keeping it a secret from everyone.
We did not take DD to our sonogram as my OB’s office didn’t allow it. I switched later in the pregnancy to a midwife and would have taken her, if I had made the switch earlier.
December 2nd, 2009 at 6:25 pm
Here are my rules.
If you choose to wait to find out the babys sex I will not talk to you anymore. If you choose to find out but keep it a secret from me I will not talk to you anymore. If you kill Jonathan I will not talk to you anymore. If you move to China I will not talk to you anymore (the long distance charges would be too expensive).
December 2nd, 2009 at 6:31 pm
We are waiting to find out the sex of this baby. It is fun and also I think it helps you identify more with a peace about the whole process, just knowing it really isn’t for you to decide or be prepared for anyway. Plus really they were like white onesies for the first month so you can always have a clothes shower or send someone to the store for “proper” attire!
I have known several ppl who have keep their name or sex of baby a secret from everyone else. It wasn’t perceived as rude I mean, its YOUR baby and everyone knows all about everything else might as well keep something to yourselves. And, its only 9 months (well shorter after deciding or finding out) it won’t matter what anyone thought or felt soon enough.
We are planning to bring Oliver to the sonogram but I think we are only having one. You already took Abby to one so really skipping the next doesn’t seem like a big deal. You could bring a camera and tripod and just video the screen and show her later.
GOOD LUCK!
December 2nd, 2009 at 8:40 pm
Yay for feeling movements! Boo for being sick still.
I think of you daily as well. I actually was going through old pictures today and found ones of us from high school and early college. So fun! Andrew and I had a good laugh at our model attire!
You are so brave for considering not finding out. I’m such a planner that that would go 100% against my nature! Will the new baby be getting its own nursery? If so, would you just decorate gender neutral? I don’t think it’s rude at all, but I bet some relatives might get touchy about not telling! At least mine would!
Good luck with your decision! If you DO decide to find out and let us know, please let it be ASAP! I can’t wait to find out!
December 3rd, 2009 at 11:07 am
Of course I haven’t gotten to experience this yet, but I think I would find out the gender, but we have already decided not to tell anyone the name until its born. We have a certain family member that could be rude or snotty about the name that we would pick, and I don’t want that. WE are the ones naming the baby, and I don’t want to be criticized for what we pick.
December 3rd, 2009 at 2:29 pm
I’ve always felt that it’s a surprise no matter if I find out in the ultrasound room or in the delivery room.
Either way, I’m surprised! I’m such a planner, and I like to have all my “ducks” in a row before delivery so post-delivery is as “easy” as possible. As for Abigail, we didn’t take either of ours to the ultrasounds for the very reason you mentioned. Too crazy! But, our ultrasound tech burned the ultrasound onto a DVD so we could show it to them later; does yours do that? And, just from someone in the healthcare field, if you haven’t checked on it yet, you might want to make sure they’ll let you videotape the ultrasound with your own camera; most offices won’t due to liability issues and such. 
Just a tip. Can’t wait to see what you decide!
December 3rd, 2009 at 4:09 pm
Thanks for all of your great comments, except for you Ryan.
@ Stacey- So, y’all had planned on keeping your Abigail’s gender a secret, if you had’ve known at 20 weeks? Glad to know! I’m leaning towards this.
@ Audra- Yes, Baby will have his/her own bedroom. We would plan on painting the walls a light green or some neutral color. Then buy pieces here and there to make it look boyish/girlish. Or, if it ends up being a girl, we might let her have Abigail’s room and make the other bedroom for Abigail. As far as the bedding, we think we got more than we needed with Abigail. Really, you just need a fitted sheet and a breathable bumper. Plus baby won’t be sleeping in a crib until 3 months or so. And yes, Jonathan’s side has made it clear that they “have” to know the sex.
@ Allison- Good point; you can be surprised either way. I think we’ll get someone to watch Abigail for our next sonogram. I’ll have to call the center to see if they’re going to give us a dvd or if they’ll let us videotape. Thanks for the heads up!
December 4th, 2009 at 2:19 pm
It’s a tough decision! Matt always wanted the sex to be a surprise but changed his mind when it was time to find out what Kate was. I think we’ll probably wait on the next one.
Whatever you decide just stand firm. Explain to your families that you’re the parents and it’s your decision. I think if we found out but wanted to keep it a secret, that we would tell people that we didn’t know. That way they wouldn’t keep bugging us to tell.
I agree with others that it would be really hard to have Abigail at the sonogram. It’s a special time for your and Jonathan- you don’t want him distracted because he’s taking care of her. And if you find out the sex but want to keep it a secret, you probably don’t want her hearing and spoiling the surprise.
Good Luck!!
December 4th, 2009 at 10:30 pm
We took Annerson to the last one. As a result, Lex practically missed the whole thing b/c he was entertaining her the whole time. She wasn’t interested in the event whatsoever. We aren’t taking her next time. She’s not going to remember it, but we will. So I say make it a special time for you and Jonathan to remember & don’t feel guilty about her missing it. I doubt she’ll be offended!